by jimwalton » Sat Nov 19, 2022 3:55 pm
The three provisions of food, clothing, and love were understood literally by the Jews. The wife was expected to cook and sew, while the husband provided food and materials, or money. They both had to provide the emotional support of marital love, though they could abstain from sex for short periods. Paul taught the same thing. He said that married couples owed each other love (1 Cor. 7.3-5) and material support (1 Cor. 7.33-34). He didn’t say that neglect of these rights was the basis of divorce because he didn’t need to—it was stated on the marriage certificate. Anyone who was neglected, in terms of emotional support or physical support, could legally claim a divorce.
Divorce for neglect included divorce for abuse, because this was extreme neglect. There was no question about that end of the spectrum of neglect. Putting together all of what the Bible says about divorce gives us a more clear picture as to the appropriate conditions for it:
- Adultery (in Dt. 24.1, affirmed by Jesus in Matthew 19)
- Emotional and physical neglect (in Ex. 21.10-11, affirmed by Paul in 1 Cor. 7)
- Abandonment and abuse (included in neglect, as affirmed in 1 Cor. 7)
Jewish couples listed these biblical grounds for divorce in their marriage vows. We reiterate them as love, honor, and keep and be faithful to each other. When these vows were broken, it threatened to break up the marriage. As in any broken contract, the wronged party had the right to say, “I forgive you; let’s carry on,” or, “I can’t go on, because this marriage is broken.”
The three provisions of food, clothing, and love were understood literally by the Jews. The wife was expected to cook and sew, while the husband provided food and materials, or money. They both had to provide the emotional support of marital love, though they could abstain from sex for short periods. Paul taught the same thing. He said that married couples owed each other love (1 Cor. 7.3-5) and material support (1 Cor. 7.33-34). He didn’t say that neglect of these rights was the basis of divorce because he didn’t need to—it was stated on the marriage certificate. Anyone who was neglected, in terms of emotional support or physical support, could legally claim a divorce.
Divorce for neglect included divorce for abuse, because this was extreme neglect. There was no question about that end of the spectrum of neglect. Putting together all of what the Bible says about divorce gives us a more clear picture as to the appropriate conditions for it:
[list][*] Adultery (in Dt. 24.1, affirmed by Jesus in Matthew 19)
[*] Emotional and physical neglect (in Ex. 21.10-11, affirmed by Paul in 1 Cor. 7)
[*] Abandonment and abuse (included in neglect, as affirmed in 1 Cor. 7)[/list]
Jewish couples listed these biblical grounds for divorce in their marriage vows. We reiterate them as love, honor, and keep and be faithful to each other. When these vows were broken, it threatened to break up the marriage. As in any broken contract, the wronged party had the right to say, “I forgive you; let’s carry on,” or, “I can’t go on, because this marriage is broken.”