Here's the scene: God invites each person into a loving relationship with himself. He has prepared a wonderful place for them, and leaves the door wide open. It doesn't make God barbarous that a person refuses to come in and chooses of their own free will to stay outside in the chaos. There's a Book of Life, but there's no Book of Death. But people who reject God choose to be separated from him, and they will go to a fate that was never meant to be theirs. We are free agents, and the choices we get to make regarding spiritual truths are real choices. God does not force anyone towards heaven or hell. Those choices are ours alone to make.
So here's the true scenario: God loves you (Jn. 3.16), knows that you can't save yourself (since no one is worthy), and so has made every provision for your rescue, offering it as a free gift to all comers. We must repudiate what separates us from God (repent of our sins), and turn to him in love (very different from "religion". It's much like a marriage ceremony, where you forsake all others to commit yourself in love to the one who loves you.) But since love must always be chosen and never forced, he informs and invites all people to come to him for rescue (salvation). The choice belongs to each individual, and it is always ours to make. No worthiness is involved, but only choice and love. All sincere comers will be accepted. All who refuse and choose to have nothing to do with God will endure the consequences of that decision: life without God, and eternity without God, if they get all the way to the end of life spurning his every invitation. They weren't created bound for hell, and Jer. 18.1-12 lets us know that they always have a legitimate choice to do as they wish with their lives. God will make adjustments according to their free-will choices. The path to hell is never a certainty unless the person in question makes it such.
The Bible pictures it this way: Let's suppose there are two doors, one leading to eternal separation from God, and one leading to eternal joy in his presence. Door #1 was only prepared for Satan and his sycophants, and door #2 was prepared for all people. Jesus is standing between the doors, and as people approach, he expresses his love for them and invites them to enter door #2 and bliss. But when people grab the handle to door #1, he cries out to them, "Don't do that. It's a terrible thing. You don't want to go there. Come this way, into door #2." But they choose to enter door #1 anyway. God is not to be blamed.
Hell is the place people choose to go who have no desire to share eternity with God. The Bible portrays it as a black and white thing: If you don't want God, the only other possibility is the absence of God. If you don't want life (since God is life), the only other possibility is death (the absence of life). If you don't want relationship with God, the only other possibility is separation from him (the absence of relationship). Hell isn't fire, which is just an image of its awfulness, but being separated from the presence of God. It's someone's choice to go there, not God's.
You fault God for even creating the environment of hell (likening him to Hitler as the one who made the rules). The Bible makes quite clear that hell wasn't made for people. Mt. 25.41 says that hell was specifically created solely for the devil and his angels. There was never intent on God's part that any human should go there. If someone goes there, it's because they refuse to be with God. Don't blame God. He isn't responsible for anyone's being in hell except the Devil and his angels.
> The difference with God is that the natural consequences are things he initiated.
But they aren't. If you take away the light you end up with darkness. If you refuse God's life, the only choice is to end up without life. God didn't create evil. God created good. Evil is the absence of good, and it wasn't God's doing.
> Its like the C.O. saying if you want to do your own thing, I literally will stab you in the back repeatedly because I told you not to.
This is horrible. That's not what it's like at all, if we're following what the Bible says. The Bible says if you want to do your own thing, you will suffer the consequences for your own decision. God warned Adam & Eve not to eat of the fruit, because it would cause a separation from his life. They chose separation, and so they lost his presence. He warned them; he didn't stab them in the back. This is an unjustifiable train of thought, and it's not what the Bible teaches.
> Revelation 20.12. When I read this, I inferred that because God was in charge of everything that occured in Hell.
There is no Bible text saying or implying that God is in charge of everything that occurs in hell. This verse says that no person will escape accountability for the choices they've made and how they have chosen to live their lives. God will have the knowledge to judge properly and the authority to assign people to their rightful destiny. That's what the verse says, not that God is the boss in hell.