Hello, I was led here by a few friends because I have been struggling and researching the concept of eternity in Hell and this idea of separation...
First off, I believe what we learn about God regarding sin, hell and punishment in the American Church is a Western/Greek dualistic mindset that came from the pagans and was highly emphasized by Augustine and Dante's Inferno. Dualism is defined as "separation between the material world and the spiritual world or separation between God and man." It's a Greek/Pagan mindset that is obsessed with separation good and evil, in other words; the Knowledge of Good and Evil.
Isaiah 59:2
"But your iniquities have separated you from your God."
Colossians 1:21
"And you, that were sometime alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now he has reconciled you."
Isn't it interesting that these verses are talking about us being separated by God only in our minds because of sin!? It doesn't say sin separates God from you? Big difference. Sin caused us to pull away from God, just like in the Garden of Eden with Adam and Eve. They are where always in union with God and when the Fall happened, they didn't see God as being holy in the sense where he is easily offended and easily pissed off by the slightest mistake. That concept didn't exist in their minds until they ate from the fruit of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, which is where it all started. Once they ate from that tree, the lie of separation entered in their hearts and minds. Adam and Eve saw themselves as unholy, unworthy and separated which drove them away from God. Not God driving Himself away from them. Yet, God was still in union with them. Humanity entered an identity crisis. Our rejection of God never stopped Him from including us. Hell is the insanity of trying to escape your inseparable union with the love of God. Jesus didn't die to reconcile God back to you, as if He had to get on God's good side, He died to reconcile us (in our fallen minds) back to God. The death of the incarnation was a demonstration of mankind's inseparable union with the Father.
All of creation came into being through Christ who is "all in all." Nothing exists outside him. In Acts 17, Paul even tells unbelieving heathen on Mars Hill that they live and move and have their being in Christ! But our Western notions of separation from God are rooted in the Greek philosophy of dualism - the ancient pagan idea that the natural and spiritual world are separate from one another.
Even Hell is not separation from God... King David said...
Psalm 139:8
"If I ascend up into heaven, there you are: if I make my bed in hell, there you are."
Even this whole concept of "God's justice" is a twisted, 21st century, attorney in the sky, western mindset. The legal system is a human construct. It is not divine. We think sin is a crime that needs to be punishment, rather than a disease that needs to be cured. If you have a child dying of cancer, who are you going to punish, the child or the cancer? Thinking sin is a crime that needs to be punished, you are only going to see people the way you think God sees people. A God who loves people, but there is also His bipolar side that must throw sinners in hell because they offended His ego...
If any parent thinks it is ok for God to allow their child to be tormented in order to justify his twisted sense of justice, they are no better than the parents who threw their children onto the burning alters of Molech and Baal. Attempting to party with food and wine, while your Host keeps your loved ones alive to be tormented in excruciating fashion, there is nothing holy and good about that, as much as we want to put lipstick on that swine...
To say there is a separation is to emphasize the lie from Eden which is the entire reason why our Savior died in the first place, to save us from the destructive power and corruptive disease of sin and death, from the accusatory damnation of satanic principalities and powers, from our self destroying inclinations and from the insanity of believing that God was ever my enemy and that somehow I had to appease Him in order to pacify His anger and displeasure.