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[JustCurious]

As a Christian myself, I have always struggled with understanding the very common belief that if married in this life we are no longer married in heaven. When it is discussed, it is made apparent by most Christians that this is just an obvious reality based on what the bible says. Generally, Matthew 22:30 is brought up as clear proof of this. When I read Matthew 22:30 It seems clear to me though that no new marriages will take place, not that previous marriages in this life cease to exist in eternity. Now, I submit the exact nature and purpose of that marriage may be altered, but I don't currently believe that relationship, covenant, and unique unity is dissolved.

The full context of Matthew 22 might be the strongest indicator that marriage ceases, because Jesus is answering in response to the pharisees trying to trap Jesus based on a woman with multiple husbands throughout life. But still I see Jesus' response as a way out of their trapping - not as a clear answer of what to expect in heaven.

The same Christians who tell me it is obvious we are not married in heaven would also generally believe they will be "with" their family in heaven. Their kids, their parents, their grandparents etc. Many of these relationships are built on marriage. It is assumed that our children are still our children why wouldn't our spouse still be our spouse (in a relational sense)? It is assumed they will see their Mom and Dad - but simultaneously assumed their parents are not married? What then is our relationship with our own spouse while in each other's presence, with the memory of having been married and building an earthly life together, other than "still married"? Sure, we may not likely continue to procreate - but I don't believe that is wholistically the point of marriage. Sure marriage is a symbol of the gospel for others in this life and the Gospel is completely fulfilled in the next - but I don't think this either is wholistically the point of marriage. The marriage covenant is complex, highly relational and intimate. I just don't see how that ceases in the afterlife. So maybe there is not a celestial courthouse where my marriage is written on a legal document - but does that change the special unity of that relationship before God's eyes? The two have become one flesh - and we still have flesh in heaven. Adam and Eve were created in the garden before sin in a type of marital union - and is heaven not some form of a return to the garden?

Perhaps I am way out of line - appreciate your thoughts!