To the first point, no. It's a fatherly protection of your own genetics and I support this and I would do this not only for my own kids, when I have one, but I would support it today or my sister's kids.
The second place where you put me in the shoes of a son. This is slightly different. I will forever hate him for that. If I do it as a father, I am doing it accepting that my son will hate me for it, because I myself would forever hate him for doing what he did. This leaves a person, while yes, the father would do it and science give s a reason why, leaves the son with immence guilt for the rest of his life and his son would, or at least I would hate my father for it. For not letting me take responsibility for my life.
Another thing I would like to stress is that there is a difference between legal process and country invading us. If country is invading us, I would hide the whole family to make sure it will be highly improbable for the enemy to find and if necessary, move them away from the location they occupy.
Based on what you know about me so far, if I do not accept Jesus and I die before I do (Which will happen unless new evidence comes out), and you are right, do you think as a person, as a fellow human being God should punish me? Because this is what your religion is preaching. Now, this might not be your belief, but I am open to hear it.
I am disconnected from god, but most people that know me will say that I have strong moral value. I would never condemn anyone. I will try to educate and I strive for full equality between genders, races and then further push for morality towards animals, the planet and then even further about the correct morally investments for the future.
I do believe actually that the second to last statement is not fully true. While, yes, the crime rates and terrorist attacks are no laughing matter, they are being lower year by year with rational thinking and proper preparation and protection, which by the way, is not due to God and God has no place in the discussion about the extermination of the "evil" which I do not believe it exists. I believe that every single person has the good and bad in him and we are all morally grey in the different shades.