by jimwalton » Wed Jul 27, 2022 2:00 pm
Thanks for bringing this up, although this shows that you haven't done research on the text but are just reading it superficially.
The root for the word translated "punishing" is pqd. It means "to attend to (with care); take note; visit (making a visitation, pointing to action that produces a great change in the position of a subordinate either for good or for ill, as in Pharaoh’s servants in Gn. 40: one was restored and the other executed.); appoint; muster or number (of gathering troops or to ascertain the available manpower), reckon." So, "punishing" in this context is best read as "determine destiny" (to attend to their lives, point to actions, appoint). The sin of the parents here refers to a destiny of calamity or destruction. In other words, the one who sins will face punishment. So when the adult units face demise, so also do the children under them, usually just in the course of normal cause-and-effect. Mistakes by parents live on in their children who are often under their care or even trained in their footsteps. This is not to say the children's fate is set or that the children are punished for what their parents did, but only that when a family runs into trouble (especially in their day when family units stayed communally together for generations), that trouble plays itself through many generations. The verse doesn't show that children are punished through no fault of their own, but rather than when the dad messes up, the children often bear some of the consequences (think of gamblers, alcoholics, liars, cheaters, philanderers, and just hateful people). Future generations often suffer the consequences of the mistakes of their predecessors. It's often the case that someone who hates God (Ex. 20.5) teaches their children that same hate (as also true with racism, misogyny, etc.).